Updated: Dec 14, 2020
Elegance and simplicity is the quality of the Tamil people. And this quality you will see in their wedding ceremonies too. You will see Tamil weddings are completely different from the wedding rituals in other parts of India. Haven’t taken part in south Indian pomp before? Want to know more about it?
This article definitely helps you to know in detail how Tamil marriages happen, all the traditions during the ceremony.
If you want to see a pure Indian traditional wedding, then Tamil Wedding will be best for you. Tamil marriages are known for their traditions but this does not mean those are any less than the north Indian marriages. It may not be that spendthrift as the Punjabi Shaadi but still, you will see full joy and grace and when especially come to traditional values, any Tamil Shaadi is gorgeous! Tamil people value the rituals and costumes a lot and they remain committed to following those with perfection.
About Tamil Marriage :
Tamil matrimony is all about full of color, the grapple of flowers, and the goblet of music. Now add millions of other elements to follow the south Indian wedding called Maangalyam or Thirumanam, commonly called in Tamil Nadu.
You will be surprised to know that a proper Tamil wedding goes for more than a week. ‘Bhakshanam’ is known as the first ritual when people (family, friends, and relatives) from various places join the place of the wedding. During this, home-cooked intricacies come in the quick wedding rituals that happen today due to the fast-tracked life of modern people. But the typical Tamil weddings are the true color of tradition.
Pre-wedding jitters of Tamil marriages:
What does it take to make a classic Tamil wedding? The venue for the marriage is called mandapam which is organized by the bride’s family as they are in charge of handling the responsibility of organizing the wedding.
The mandapam rement adorn with floral designs and beautiful flowers are used to make ready the grand pattern of kolam. The next ritual comes Palikai Thalikkal. In this something amazing and different ritual where a clay pot is used to place nine kinds of grains and females from both the families of the groom and bride water it. As they start watering the grains, the sprout comes which shows good luck for starting a new family. The bride herself joins the ritual of watering the grains after her marriage. The newly wedded couple then brings the pot to throw it into a river or pond.
The Wedding Eve:
Before the wedding day in the evening, ‘Nishchayathartam’ takes place. It is like an engagement ceremony. The groom goes to the temple with his family members to take blessings from God. Do you know what is called south Indian “Baraat”? It is known as ‘Jaana Vasam’. In this, the groom takes a tour of the place near the venue. Why this? This happens to make sure that the world has no objections regarding marriage.
After completing this ritual, the family members of the bride and groom change their ceremonial plates which contain fruits, flowers, jewels, and clothes.
Actually, in the modern-day Tamil matrimony arrange a pre-wedding reception which is celebrated with the entertainment of classical music and with delectable foods for both the family members and guests.
The Wedding Day:
• Wedding Day of a Tamil marriage ceremony starts early almost 4 am in the morning. But infants and children are not mandatory in the ritual. Only the bride and the groom should be at the ‘Vratam’. It is an oath-taking ceremony that is played by both families. They give their esteemed oath and then visit a temple after it. ‘Vratam’ can be due on the wedding eve too.
• After ‘Vratam’, guests start seeping in to execute ‘Kashi Yatra’. It is a representative tour of visiting Varanasi by the groom. Actually, in the past, boys habitat to visit Varanasi after finishing their education to become a sanyasi. A similar custom is performed by the groom. He puts on a traditional dress with sandals and holds Gita in hand and the only word comes amazing. According to this tradition, he walks towards the entrance profess that shows he is doing a Kashi Yatra. The father of the bride now comes in front of him to stop him from leaving home so that he can give her daughter's hand to the bride and give her all responsibility to him. After the groom agrees and said that he will not to go Kashi and promises to marry his daughter, then ‘Oonjal’ starts.
• ‘Oonjal’ another ceremony, known as a swing ceremony which is carried out just before exchanging garlands between the bride and the groom. This ceremony is signified as extreme fun and liveliness. Garland exchanging is quite the same all over India. Guests and family members sing songs to open out happiness in the overall.
• To enjoy Oonjal the bride and groom are served with milk which is a sweet nutritive drink prepared with bananas. The women of both families spread the drink. The Tamilians sing traditional songs specially dedicated to this event, which makes the function a bit more traditional. And then starts the main event of ‘Kanyadaanam’ along with ‘Maangalya Dhaaranam’.
• At the time of Kanyadaanam, the bride has to sit on the knees of her father when the pandit chants some specific mantras committed for the occasion. Then the father gave her daughter's hand to the groom. And hands over his daughter’s responsibility to his son-in-law and take a promise from him to take care of his daughter forever.
• Next, the bride wears the saree which is gifted by her life partner. She hangs it in traditional fashion and the groom’s sister helps her with it. The bride comes to the mandapam again where the groom is busy following marriage rituals. Now it’s the time where the groom has to tie the mangalsutra around the bride’s neck. After that, the groom holds the bride’s hand and takes the round of the fire of the agnikund. Now, the time of ‘Saptapadi’. By bend down, he helps his bride in taking seven rounds around the fire. The ritual of Saptapadi is almost the same as all over India. The bride and the groom need to take an oath together after completing each ‘fera’. After finishing those, the groom escorts his bride towards a pounding stone which is usually kept next to the agnikund so that she can keep her foot on that. It is the sign of the bride’s power and responsibility for prime a smooth and happy married life by demolishing all the hurdles on the way.
• Then come the ‘Honam’, where the groom and bride sit in front of the agnikund to seek blessings from God.
• When every ritual is finished, they go for a grand banquet together with their families and guests. It is come after by the Nalangu ceremony where the young couple plays games and songs.
• Then in the last is ’Griha Pravesham’ when the bride enters the groom’s house.
So, overall, Tamil matrimony is full of color, music, spirited, and gala affair. You can connect with the matrimonial sites to get a Tamil soulmate for you. This is truly an unforgettable experience to tie a knot with your beloved in such a grand way.
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